From Individual To Family In Nine Short Months
Pregnancy in the world is certainly far from novel until you experience it for the first time. When it’s your pregnancy everything truly is novel and you start to see the world around you much differently. The nesting time that most women go through often turns inward. We want to know that everything is going to be just fine.
Most women look around and they question things in their life. They may wonder if they should quit or keep their job, whether they should have moved closer to the grandparents, or whether their relationship will hold up to the stressors of pregnancy and birth. When you are seeking a united family unit before the baby is born, most of us start with the easy stuff.
In anticipation of the arrival of you’re baby, you run out and get the cutest little girl or baby boy bedding. You set up baby safety monitors and of course you even stock up on the best diapers. You make sure your home is the one place that is absolutely ready for parenthood. Baby proofing before your child is even born is actually more common than you might think.
While this is a lot of fun, it does not do much to calm your fears regarding your relationship. It’s completely common for a pregnant woman to question everything in her life to make sure she feels she is doing the best to bring her child into the best possible world. When it comes to relationship issues there is not a more potent cure than communication.
You may just have cold feet. Going into a lifetime commitment with anyone is a scary proposition. Even if you got married, everyone knew there was always the final option of divorce if it didn’t work out. Now with a baby on the way, your commitment to your partner needs to feel stronger than ever.
While you are pregnant you should take the time to talk over your issues and start really digging into the depths of what makes you both willing to go forward like this. You may find there are some hurt feelings but you may also find that there are many surprises waiting for the two of you as you open up.
As you and your partner start to melt into a team you can usually start putting many of your relationship fears away. It’s perfectly understandable that you both will have a period of adjustment to go through, but if you become firm in your relationship now the bumps ahead will not be so big.